Values

I never realize the important of having the same values as your friends until now. I been struggle a lot with friendship lately, especially in the summer. I think there are certain qualities that a friend should have  in order to be a friend. But then how do I know if those are  not just qualities that I expect in a friend? I have such amazing friends in my life, so what I expect from a friend might be kind of high? I have a friend at school that I am pretty close to. Our values can not be anymore different from each other and because of that I am in a constant struggle to be his friend. I really don't know if he just a bad friend or I'm expecting too much from him? He is so different from the rest of my other friends but does different mean bad? Is it fair to expect him to treat me like the rest of my friend would? I take the quote " treat other people the way you want to be treated" very seriously. In theory it sounds great, but in reality it doesn't always work like that. I have before and still willing to bend over backwards for my friends, now is it fair to expect them to do the same for me?  This is where I get hurt a lot, I tend to care for my friends a lot more then they care for me. This is by far the biggest struggle I have with my friends hence this post. 

I think the grace I need to ask from God right now is to be more humble. To do things for others and not expect anything back. This will be a very hard thing for me to do because of my brokenness but it is necessary if I want to become a missionary priest one day.